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Random Thoughts on Love and Relationships

Love and Other Things     Love is perhaps the hardest thing to find in its most genuine form in today’s society. Some may find that “real thing” early on in life, whereas others may spend a lifetime trying to obtain it. Nowadays there are so many types of love and ways in which people define it. Love used to be in its simplest form, pure and unwarranted, however it seems that one must have a recipe in order to reach the ultimate phase of being completely and utterly in love with someone. The issue is that, there is always at least one ingredient missing that ultimately hinders the perfect batch of love from being created.

     I like to deem myself a hopeless romantic, and therefore I have an idea of what love is based on my own notions and experiences, and one thing I’ve learned is that sometimes our concepts of love are not always practical. Love shouldn’t be painful but worth fighting for, it shouldn’t be hard to obtain but also it shouldn’t easily be replaceable, most importantly love shouldn’t be practical, but it should be spontaneous and full of thought and excitement. People seem to fall out of love rather quickly in today’s society, and love can quickly turn into hate. Passion is perhaps the most intense component of love. Without passion, love loses its spark and ultimately begins to fizzle away.

      I’ve seen lasting love, as many of us have at some point in our lives. My grandparents were married for 52 years, my grandfather passed away four days before their 53rd anniversary. So I know that everlasting and chivalrous love still exists, I’m just waiting for my turn. I believe that it is still possible to have a “until death do us part” type of love. Therefore, I’m waiting remaining patient and in the mean time working on other aspects of my life that will one day prepare me for the man who is perfect for me.

     Ultimately, there are so many ways in which the dynamic and concept of love have changed, and yes, sometimes I begin to lose hope, but something always happens to restore my faith (I read a book, hear a story, watch a movie, attend a wedding). I may not know the day or the hour, but I have a great feeling that the man whom is right for me is out here in the world being prepared for me as I am for him….

     Here are a few questions I would like to pose for you to think about in regard to love and relationships…

  • What has changed in society over the last 60 years, why are marriages failing so quickly?
  • Have we become highly influenced by the media and it’s idea of love and relationships?
  • Do we still have the same regard for monogamy?
  • Do we as a society still value and respect the institution of marriage as per say our grandparents and parents?

Insomnia, Thoughts and Life

Life and Thoughts

     Insomnia can be both your best friend and your worst nightmare at the same time, for me, insomnia is my diary. I would like to consider myself an avid thinker, and it is during these sleepless nights that I have my greatest thoughts, moments of clarity, and sometimes I even shed a few tears thinking about the struggles I am trying to overcome or things that are sacred to me. Over the past few years, these mixed emotions that I suffer from late at night have mainly helped me to reflect and recollect on life and it is in these moments that I have found a new appreciation for life, it’s blessings and shockingly it’s curses.

     The last few years have been rather rough, journeying down a road that once seemed quite smooth and promising, now the journey although at times, is one I would rather not participate in, has truly been a building block and lesson well learned. I have learned more things about myself in the past two years than I had collectively in the 24 I’ve been on earth. I’ve suffered both heartbreak and triumphs, but somehow whether good or bad, I’ve managed to still stand, and I am thankful for that opportunity alone.

      In 2011, I lost my grandfather, after a 16-year battle with leukemia, and as a result I lost all faith in great things happening to great people. My grandfather was my father figure, role model, one of my biggest supporters, but most importantly he showed me what hard work and perseverance could achieve. My grandfather put up a great fight but what stands out most about his bout, was the fact that he NEVER complained. I deal with different things on a daily basis and I’ve come to realize I complain about the small things that sometime aren’t worth my while and eventually stress me out. However, one day I decided to step back, reassess and in that instant I just happened to think about my grandfather and I decided that from that moment on I would live like him. I’m not complaint free by any means, I am still a work in progress, but I want to live a life like he did. He lived life to the fullest; he enjoyed every moment of his time here, surrounded himself with positivity, and always progressed in his faith.

      I’m going to cut this short and leave on this note (getting a little emotional at 3:09 a.m.). Nevertheless, I challenge you to live to share the moments that take your breath away, love those who love you just as much or even harder, learn to be carefree in moments that allow you to be. Lastly, always leave yours footprints to let others know, you were here. Remember, you can’t continue growing if you don’t know where you’re going.

Life May Present Obstacles…..But Learn Persevere

Show me someone who has lived an obstacle free life and I’d be willing to bet he hasn’t lived.

Obstacles are a natural occurrence in life. The type of obstacles you may face definitely depends on the path you choose to take in life and the obstructions that come along with that route.

Treading lightly, sometimes seems to help avoid the curves that may lie ahead, however no matter how slow you may trod, the truth is, you must experience some type of obstacle in order to embrace and appreciate the gift of perseverance.

The recent events that occurred at the Boston Marathon really touch on overcoming obstacles. I think about the time, energy and strength these runners have invested in preparing for such an event, and I must admit, it is pure dedication. I could not imagine finally reaching the finish line or seeing it so clear in the distance, only to have your life altered.

It is sad that someone only thought of what was important to him or herself, as they executed this heinous act. It is obvious that they didn’t think about the individuals who would be injured or killed, neither their families involved in running and watching the marathon.

After seeing numerous graphic pictures of blown off limbs, blood splatter and terrified runners and bystanders, I am still in shock.

My initial reaction was sadness for the runners. Life changed in the blink of an eye, dreams were stolen, goals were deterred and happiness turned into a crime scene. Some how each person that has been affected by this tragedy will slowly begin to pick the pieces of their lives up and persevere over the events that occurred at the Boston Marathon. The road won’t be easy and some may not complete the journey, however one thing is for certain, we all face obstacles. Now the depth or severity of those obstacles will depend on each and every one of our life paths, but we will experience them. How we handle them, will determine whether we will ultimately reign victorious or not.

The Boston Marathon Explosion, Newtown Shootings and Aurora Shooting, seem to teach s nothing as a nation. How many more lives will it take for us to wake up as a nation? How many more parents and children in mourning will it take to realize we aren’t stringent enough in regards to those who actually break the law? We didn’t learn in 1963 when the 16th Street Baptist Church was bombed, we didn’t learn with the Oklahoma City bombings, 9/11 woke us up and now we have the Boston Marathon bombing. What will it take to get better weapon regulation in the United States and more so more stringent regulation on materials to make said weapons.

As a nation concerned with bath salts, mollies, and amphetamines, it’s time we avert our attention and take a serious look at the bigger issues, gun and weapon control.