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The ART of Parenting Twins

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THE HARDEST JOB IN THE WORLD – AND THE BEST

“I’ve come to view the experience of raising twins as similar to preparing an expedition to climb Mount Everest. You wouldn’t expect to set off on such a grueling adventure without a complete and first- rate support system…And yet, as exhausting and difficult as the process is, the adventure is unparalleled and worth the sacrifice.”

~Patricia Maxwell Malmstrom & Janet Poland

The Diary of a First Time Mom of Twins: Bills, Breast Feeding & Balancing Acts

Am I a Failure as a Mother?

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Being a mom can be very overwhelming at times. I find myself sad and feeling guilty now that I am back at work.  Lately I have been feeling that flooding feeling and experiencing temporary moments of insanity. I’d rather  be home with my babies; But I have to go to work right now (putting positive work at home/ entrepreneurial thoughts into the atmosphere)!

I feel like I am a bad mother because I stopped breastfeeding my babies at 4 month old. Somewhere between my Tuesday snicker, glass of red wine and going back to work my milk supply dried up to where I was really just producing vapors. And when I gave it the last final try my boys were screaming inconsolably from hunger. Now that I really think about it I am really saddened by being unable to feed my babies. Am I selfish? Could I have taken better care of my self? I feel like I cheated them:(.

Then I feel like I am missing their milestones like rolling over and their coos. They are making the transition to pureed foods and I feel so drained by the time I get home, that I feel as though I am not effectively doing everything I need to do to spearhead this huge transition. When I wake up during the week I try to make sure they have fresh diapers and they’ve at least eaten 5 oz and by the time I get home they are still up but cranky from their day. Once I give baths it’s time for possibly their second to last bottle, before I put them down at night. Then I try to read them a story every night but by the time they have their cereal bottle they are out or I am just too tired to decipher the tongue twisters of Dr. Seuss. But no matter how much I do… Sometimes I feel like I am failing them…

Though people have tried there is no way one can bottle this job (Motherhood) into a book. Even though “How to be a Mother for Dummies” is a hilarious title. The stress of wanting to be “the perfect mom” is definitely real. I beat myself up when I am a minute late picking my sons up from daycare. I imagine their little faces and their huge eyes filling up with tears and wonderment like “Where is my mommy”? “Why oh why has she forsaken us”? A bit dramatic for 5 month olds but if they are anything like their mother I am sure that is exactly where their minds and mouths will go once they are able to talk.

Now that I am a mother I truly understand when parents say “I tried my best”… This thing of motherhood better yet PARENTHOOD is both a GROWING PROCESS as well as a JOURNEY and trust me this thing is NOT for the faint hearted.

Signed,

A Mother & A Life Perfectionist

The Diary of a First Time Mom of Twins: What is Milky!?

I love this amazing twin duo, and I applaud them in their efforts to aid/ promote breastfeeding!

The Diary of a First Time Mom of Twins: Take me out to the ball game

Today my family and I went to the Braves vs The Washington Nationals baseball game! We are so high up in the nose bleeds and I am afraid out of my mind. But they seem to be enjoying themselves!

#AllGood! Great day!

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The Diary of a First Time Mom of Twins: Double Trouble

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My sons are 4 months and beyond amazing.  They are talking and cooing and possess such silly personalities already! Thank the lord they are past the high maintenance stage; they only cry when they are really hungry or tired. Other than that they are all smiles and bright eyed.

They are the sweetest little people ever, I swear.  However, I truly believe that they are beginning to master the art of their twin telepathic language. For the past couple of days every time nap-time rears its ugly head head. I get one that will fall into a deep slumber rather peacefully while his counterpart needs to be cuddled and rocked for comfort. Nevertheless, it never fails once I get one of my “things” (my children) to sleep his brother is wide eye looking at me with the death stare :)! And I promise he begins to let out the loudest bellowing coo  as if to try to wake up his brother.  It is both quite frustrating and hilarious at the same time! Needless to say, nap-time consists of multiple cat naps through out the day.

Is this my lot in life? 🙂

First time Mom Insomnia Part 2: Confessions of the Sleep Deprived

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When Mom’s Away the Boys Will…Not Play?

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People say that babies can smell when their mothers walk into the room. I’ve tried to research this for factual proof, but so far it seems to just be an old wives’ tale, which Wikipedia says are usually unverified. I’ve had a few opportunities to test out this tale, and so far I see why it’s been passed down for so long.

I have been blessed with a companion that understands the need for “me time.” On several occasions during our 2 months as parents he’s encouraged me to get out of the house and just do me. I was a little apprehensive at first. Would it make me a bad mother to leave my 1 month old child for my own fun? Would I even be able to leave as a breastfeeding mom? I thought having kids meant every outing was now a family outing. I was not expecting to taste freedom so soon. Where would I go? What would I do? How would my guys handle it?

I spent my first taste of freedom indulging in the mall. After all of the prep work of making bottles, pumping milk, changing clothes, and making sure daddy had everything he needed, I left the house on a super exciting high. Of course as a new parent I was drawn to all the kid stores. I spent more money on my son than I did on myself. I was gone for a total of 3 hours, but not without checking in several times. When I arrived at the mall my fiancee sent a picture of my son asleep. No big deal; he’s just napping; he’ll be up in about an hour, an hour and a half tops. I began my shopping and later received another picture message. My son had been moved from sleeping in my fiancee’s arms to sleeping in his crib. I took a break in the food court, but I still had some more shopping to do.

About 3 hours after my departure I finally headed home. I called my fiancee and was told “yeah he’s still sleep.” Shaking my head I responded “okay, I’m almost home.”

I walked in the house and quietly headed upstairs to my son’s room. I was excited to show the goodies I got. As soon as I stepped into my son’s room he started to squirm, his signature ” I’m waking up” move. ” He smelled you” my fiancee tells me. I couldn’t believe it! He slept the entire time I was gone and woke up as soon as I got home.

Since then I’ve been out a few more times without my son and the story remains the same. He’s asleep by the time I get to my destination and wakes up upon my return.

So I guess it’s true what they say, babies have a unique sense of smell for their mothers. That’s so uncool because when I do get up the nerve to leave him with a sitter I want to get my monies worth!!

The Diary of a First Time Mom of Twins: Teething Baby

I swear this video mad me literally LOL! I can see my first born doing this. SMH #intears

The Diary of a First Time Mom of Twins: It’s the Little Things

When they giggle in their sleep:) #heartsmiles

Confessions of a first time Mommy: Separation Anxiety

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