Category Archives: Life & Inspiration

Tia Mowry for PETA

I am absolutely obsessed with the Mowry twins from their blog ( to their Style Network show aptly titled “Tia & Tamera” (new season premieres Sunday, July 14, 8/7 c)!

Anyway, I saw Tia’s new ad as a spokes model for PETA and I was inspired. I work in the entertainment industry and in this business and almost everyone around me is either a vegetarian or vegan.

Veganism: /ˈviːgənɪzəm/) is the practice of abstaining from the use of animal products, particularly in diet, as well as an associated philosophy that rejects the commodity status of sentient animals. A follower of veganism is known as a vegan.

I have definitely been interested in applying this diet in my life. However, I am ignorant of everything it entails and I have so many questions…Is it expensive to be a vegan? Can I still eat fish at least? (probably NOT)! What if my sons and significant other don’t want to join me in this process, how could I be successful in embarking on such a journey?



Magna Carta Holy Grail

First and foremost I am an Apple girl all day! But everyone who knows me understand the love I have for Mr. Carter.

This commercial was played during the Game 5 of the NBA Finals and I have to tell you it was #everything. Only Jay Z can manage to get a room full of all of these great men together.

The album, “Duality of how you navigate your way through this whole thing, you know through success through failures through all this and remain yourself.” Is that not the beauty of life? …

The internet is the “Wild Wild West”, Material Mayhem is staking claim.

Looking forward to July 4th!

Happy Father’s Day!

I would like to say happy father’s day to all of the men who are fathers ! Anyone can make a baby but it takes a REAL man to be a Father! One of my favorite father son songs here is Will Smith with “Just the Two of Us”!


Happy Father’s Day

This Video is dedicated to all the amazing men who are fathers! Angie Stone’s “Brotha”.

Enjoy your day!

Sensual Saturdays’: Video of the Day

Happy Saturday all! Yep, I had to do it to y’all, today’s video is from the Diva of all Divas. The Butterfly herself miss Mariah Carey.

I don’t care what anybody says the girl is a class act and a fellow momma of twins! Her life story is inspiring “From the girl who only had one pair of shoes, now I have many”. It goes to show that hard work and dedication to your craft and purpose will bless you beyond your wildest dreams! Keep pressing and don’t forget to love along the way everybody!

Here is Mariah Carey’s 1995 hit “Always be my Baby”!


Sometimes You’ve Got to Let Him Know


I had to let my man know that I appreciate him. He’s a really good man, the kind they don’t make any more. And while he knows that I love him, sometimes a man just needs to hear it.

I have been up and down, in and out of a rut since I gave birth. I lost my job and my emotions have been all over the place. And even though I know it’s gotten on his nerves at times, he hasn’t blown up on me. He works hard at a 9-5 every day and runs his own business on the side, he cooks every day, he spends time with our son every day which gives me a little break, he helps his parents out every time they need it, makes sure the bills are paid, makes sure I have money in my pocket, and still finds time to encourage me, support me and my dreams, and keep me positive. Even though I see him do it, I don’t know how he does it all.

You know the old saying “give me my flowers while I can still smell them,” well that’s just what I did. I pointed out all that he does and let him know I am grateful. I stroked his ego. Every man needs and wants his ego stroked every now and again. But I also wanted him to know that I notice all that he does and I’m thankful. Don’t assume someone will automatically know. Say it, tell them, and then they’ll know for sure. Whether it’s “I love you,” or “thank you,” or whatever, sometimes you just got to let them know.

To Do

” To Do

You don’t see me

just a blur, of action

Lists and dates, a task and a deadline

You don’t see me

Just a glimpse of a shadow

Running to and fro

You don’t see me

Just things to do”


I’ve always prided myself on being able to multi-task and being a great organizer. I have my days planned so things move like clockwork (most of the time). I don’t actually schedule down to the detail but more like “I need to have this done by 7” or “by 8:30 I’ll start working on such and such”. My weekends are planned down to the very last minute that the kids go to bed. Even after the kiddies are slumbering, I plan my “relaxation” time after calculating how much actual sleep time I will get before my early morning run.

I am so bad that when my husband and I last vacationed in Jamaica, I had our days planned and got upset when things didn’t go the way I scheduled them. And I was on vacation! However, after 6 years in this parenting game, two kids, 3 years of marriage and too many years of being back in school, I want to be able to live off schedule! But I don’t think I can shut down that internal clock. Even when I try not to schedule or plan, I still see my day as increments of measured space.

My hope is that I can find a way to slow down and stop looking at the clock. Too often, I lay down to sleep and begin thinking about what I have to do the next day, never stopping to thank God for the day I’ve had. I understand that time is precious and I want to enjoy every moment I have. So starting today, I will stop clock watching and enjoy my time instead of just spending it.

Words of Wisdom from Betty White

I thought this was funny but oh so true.

If I Am Not My Hair, Why Am I Trippin’ When It Sheds?


“I am not my hair, I am not this skin. I am the soul that lives within.”

~India Arie~

I have always had a pretty decent grade of hair, not the best but also not the worst. I’ve complained about it, hated it, experimented with it, cut it, burned it out, almost everything except color it. As a teenager I got my hair done professionally twice a month, faithfully. My hair was long and healthy, people would often ask if I had a weave or a relaxer and would be in disbelief when I proudly told them “no.” Of course when I left home and started doing it myself it began to fall out. I messed my hair up so bad that at one point I had to cut it to begin its restoration process.

I fell in love with my hair again while I was pregnant. It grew back to my teenage years when my beautician had it long and healthy. I read an article on hair growth during pregnancy and learned that the hair doesn’t necessarily grow any better or faster, it just doesn’t fail out. Hair has a natural shedding process. During pregnancy your hormones or something slows down that shedding process, so hair that would normally shed doesn’t do so, which is why it appears longer and maybe thicker. The article also mentioned that your hair will resume its natural process right after delivery.

I’ve been postpartum for three months now and I think my hair is trying to get back to pre-pregnancy look. It’s done its normal shedding, but this week it seemed to shed more than usual. And when I washed it, my hair shed EXCESSIVELY! I’m talking shed enough to weave up two chicken heads. I felt like I was going bald! I wanted to keep my long pregnancy mane and grow it longer. But why was I tripping so hard? I’ve been taught that your hair doesn’t define who you are. It doesn’t make you any better than the next girl and it shouldn’t be flaunted as the only thing you have going for yourself. Yes you want your hair to look nice, but wow them with your knowledge, your poise, your confidence, your grace, and everything else that makes you not only a damn good woman but an amazing person. Just let your hair complete the package ;-).

“Live the life you want TODAY!”


What are you waiting for? By “you” I’m speaking to myself as well.

 Many of us are just waiting around:

  • Waiting for the new job
  • Waiting for school to end or slow down
  • Waiting for him or her to come around
  • Waiting for others
  • Waiting for our money to “get right”
  • Waiting for…….

This list goes on. We are full to the brim with reasons as to why we cannot work out, eat right, do community service, tithe, etc… Why? Is it because we are waiting for all of the proverbial stars to align?

“Well, when I get this new job I will start to tithe”

“When I get my life together I will start working out again”

“When ______(fill in the blank) I will start to eat right”

I’ll do all the stuff I keep pushing off…another day; tomorrow, next week…heck next year!

Why do we do that?

Now patience is a virtue; therefore, some element of waiting is absolutely necessary and warranted. I agree whole heartedly that nothing is done in our own time, but in God’s time. He laughs at some of these plans we make for ourselves, especially when he is not included in every step of the planning process (hints why it is extremely important to remain prayerful).

However, I believe that on many occasions we are in fact our OWN greatest hindrance. We hold ourselves back. God is telling us to move but we don’t. Whether it be due to a fear of failure (or in many cases success), laziness, or complaisance. We ignore the nudge to move forward and in turn become stagnant. Doing the same old thing expecting different results (Is that not the definition of insanity?…right)

Here’s the remedy:

If it’s on your heart make it happen

The time is NOW for many of us to start Moving! Let’s not wait until tomorrow, for as you all know, tomorrow is not guaranteed.

You either find a way; or an excuse…Which do you choose? I for one chose finding a way.

  • Find a way to spend time with GOD, through prayer and self-meditation EVERYDAY (center myself)
  • Find a way to pay it forward (give more, share more, do more)
  • Find a way to tithe (after all it all belongs to Him anyway)
  • Find a way to remain positive
  • Find a way to get my business of the ground
  • Find a way to reach out to that person I have been meaning to speak to but it keep “slipping my mind”
  • Find a way to work out regularly (even when I’m tired)
  • Find a way to pamper myself every so often (nothing excessive a $30 Mani Pedi once a month will NOT break the bank)
  • Find a way to spend time with loved ones
  • Find a way to spend time pursuing my passion or indulging in a favorite hobby (an artistic outlet) 

All in all the key is to start now..

What are you waiting for? ……….Write a list, make it plain, & start today

 Be Blessed

♥ The Quarter-Life Misfit