Category Archives: Motherhood

The ART of Parenting Twins

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THE HARDEST JOB IN THE WORLD – AND THE BEST

“I’ve come to view the experience of raising twins as similar to preparing an expedition to climb Mount Everest. You wouldn’t expect to set off on such a grueling adventure without a complete and first- rate support system…And yet, as exhausting and difficult as the process is, the adventure is unparalleled and worth the sacrifice.”

~Patricia Maxwell Malmstrom & Janet Poland

To Do

” To Do

You don’t see me

just a blur, of action

Lists and dates, a task and a deadline

You don’t see me

Just a glimpse of a shadow

Running to and fro

You don’t see me

Just things to do”

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I’ve always prided myself on being able to multi-task and being a great organizer. I have my days planned so things move like clockwork (most of the time). I don’t actually schedule down to the detail but more like “I need to have this done by 7” or “by 8:30 I’ll start working on such and such”. My weekends are planned down to the very last minute that the kids go to bed. Even after the kiddies are slumbering, I plan my “relaxation” time after calculating how much actual sleep time I will get before my early morning run.

I am so bad that when my husband and I last vacationed in Jamaica, I had our days planned and got upset when things didn’t go the way I scheduled them. And I was on vacation! However, after 6 years in this parenting game, two kids, 3 years of marriage and too many years of being back in school, I want to be able to live off schedule! But I don’t think I can shut down that internal clock. Even when I try not to schedule or plan, I still see my day as increments of measured space.

My hope is that I can find a way to slow down and stop looking at the clock. Too often, I lay down to sleep and begin thinking about what I have to do the next day, never stopping to thank God for the day I’ve had. I understand that time is precious and I want to enjoy every moment I have. So starting today, I will stop clock watching and enjoy my time instead of just spending it.

The Diary of a First Time Mom of Twins: Bills, Breast Feeding & Balancing Acts

Am I a Failure as a Mother?

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Being a mom can be very overwhelming at times. I find myself sad and feeling guilty now that I am back at work.  Lately I have been feeling that flooding feeling and experiencing temporary moments of insanity. I’d rather  be home with my babies; But I have to go to work right now (putting positive work at home/ entrepreneurial thoughts into the atmosphere)!

I feel like I am a bad mother because I stopped breastfeeding my babies at 4 month old. Somewhere between my Tuesday snicker, glass of red wine and going back to work my milk supply dried up to where I was really just producing vapors. And when I gave it the last final try my boys were screaming inconsolably from hunger. Now that I really think about it I am really saddened by being unable to feed my babies. Am I selfish? Could I have taken better care of my self? I feel like I cheated them:(.

Then I feel like I am missing their milestones like rolling over and their coos. They are making the transition to pureed foods and I feel so drained by the time I get home, that I feel as though I am not effectively doing everything I need to do to spearhead this huge transition. When I wake up during the week I try to make sure they have fresh diapers and they’ve at least eaten 5 oz and by the time I get home they are still up but cranky from their day. Once I give baths it’s time for possibly their second to last bottle, before I put them down at night. Then I try to read them a story every night but by the time they have their cereal bottle they are out or I am just too tired to decipher the tongue twisters of Dr. Seuss. But no matter how much I do… Sometimes I feel like I am failing them…

Though people have tried there is no way one can bottle this job (Motherhood) into a book. Even though “How to be a Mother for Dummies” is a hilarious title. The stress of wanting to be “the perfect mom” is definitely real. I beat myself up when I am a minute late picking my sons up from daycare. I imagine their little faces and their huge eyes filling up with tears and wonderment like “Where is my mommy”? “Why oh why has she forsaken us”? A bit dramatic for 5 month olds but if they are anything like their mother I am sure that is exactly where their minds and mouths will go once they are able to talk.

Now that I am a mother I truly understand when parents say “I tried my best”… This thing of motherhood better yet PARENTHOOD is both a GROWING PROCESS as well as a JOURNEY and trust me this thing is NOT for the faint hearted.

Signed,

A Mother & A Life Perfectionist

The Diary of a First Time Mom of Twins: Ease the Pain & Helpful Feeding Tips

I read this article and it has some helpful hints for feeding baby!

Enjoy!

@AtlantaBabyExpo:

10 tips to ease the pain of feeding issues: by BabyCenter Featured Expert posted in Mom Storie… http://bit.ly/14wuIQl via @BabyCenter


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The Diary of a First Time Mom of Twins: What is Milky!?

I love this amazing twin duo, and I applaud them in their efforts to aid/ promote breastfeeding!

The Diary of a First Time Mom if Twins: Braxton Family Values

So I saw this episode last week and Tamar spoke so humorously and candidly about pregnancy. This was exactly how I felt times TWO. Fast forward to 3:00 and watch until 5:33!

When that fool same “my mouth is juicy, I can barely talk” #Idied

My Mom-spirations Fashionistas 4.0

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1. Jennifer Lopez, Entertainer

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2. Kourtney Kardashian, Fashion Designer

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3. Monica Brown, Singer

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4. Paula Patton, Actress

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5. Jessica Alba, Actress/ Model

It Takes a Village to Raise a Child…and to Keep It’s Mother Sane

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I received an unexpected text from the wife of a former coworker the other day. She gave birth to a baby girl a few weeks after I had my son. I never spoke directly with her while either of us were pregnant, nor did I authorize her husband to give her my phone number. But her text made me feel so good. She wanted to get together with the babies some time, to work out, go for a walk, go shopping, or just hang. My community of moms continues to grow and I never thought I’d even have one to begin with.

I thought my “village” would consist of mainly family, aunts, sisters, my mother and soon to be mother-in-law, etc. But I’m finding that I am so far from being alone in the newness of motherhood and it’s helping in more ways than one. I’m able to get out of the house and not be the only “baby mama” in the place. It’s giving me a chance to get moving, handle business, and really know that all of the things I’ve been feeling are normal, common, and okay to feel. 

I’m also able to help other new moms. Even though every pregnancy and parenting experience is different, it helps to discuss, exchange ideas and stories and suggestions. I can also get rid of all the stuff my son can’t use like bottles he doesn’t like and clothes he can’t fit. 

I said all that to say I’m excited to see my village grow. I appreciate all the love and support I get to give and receive. And another perk it brings for the future is that my son won’t have to party with all adults at his first birthday (I just hate that for kids).

The Diary of a First Time Mom of Twins: Take me out to the ball game

Today my family and I went to the Braves vs The Washington Nationals baseball game! We are so high up in the nose bleeds and I am afraid out of my mind. But they seem to be enjoying themselves!

#AllGood! Great day!

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The Diary of a First Time Mom of Twins: Shedding the Baby Weight

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