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LAST WP.COM POST WE ARE MOVING TO WP.ORGwhere-dreams-meet-reality-174099

Hello everyone! I wanted to reach out to the followers of this blog and let you all know how grateful we are to have you all along for this ride with us. I have been against switching urls for a while but in order to grow it was time to do just that.

Material Mayhem, Inc. has some very big plans in its future and it is our hope that you see all of our dreams come into fruition. So this will be the last post on our wordpress.com blog as we  have upgraded our site to http://materialmayheminc.org! If you love us and want to continue to get your daily dose of Material Mayhem Entertainment please follow us.

We love you all!

Peace,

Danni

Blissful Love

Where did they create you?

If I could I would duplicate you.

You’re like something not of this world, the dream man of every little girl

Your style, swag, class, and just the right amount of bad ass.

I often wonder what did I do to earn you?

I loved you before I fully learned you.

And like India said, even the things I don’t like I’m cool with because all of that other drama and bull you don’t make me fool with.

Sometimes I feel guilty when sharing stories with other women, but at the same time eager to tell about the blessing I’ve been given.

Why can’t every woman experience only this? This love isn’t ignorance, it is pure

BLISS!

My Thoughts on Daddy’s Day

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With Father’s Day approaching many thoughts are going through my mind. What feelings does this day bring about for single mothers? What about dads who have left their children? What about sperm donors? One of the most pressing thoughts, though, is how do I make Father’s Day just as important as Mother’s Day?

I get why Mother’s Day is so special. Mothers do all of the grunt work; we sacrifice our bodies, our comfort, and essentially our pre-parental way of life. Fathers on the other hand have more of a choice; they can choose to stay or leave, be supportive or be a dead-beat, be just a father or continue as a family. For the men that make the right choice I think Father’s Day should be just as big as Mother’s Day.

For me Mother’s Day was always a big deal while growing up. Plans were made in advance and we did everything possible to make sure my mom knew how much she was loved and appreciated, even if just for a day. But when it came to Father’s Day we lagged around and did just the minimum, sometimes it felt like we did things just to celebrate the day more than the man. And what makes it even more weird is that my dad was there; we weren’t kids of a single parent home, separated parents, blended family, none of that.

As this is the first time I get to celebrate Father’s Day with a family of my own, I want to make sure that Father’s Day is just as big and as important as Mother’s Day. My son’s father deserves it. And I want my son to know that dad is a vital part of this family, the head of our household, the leader of our pack, and without him our lives would be completely different.

So if you are blessed enough to know your child’s father, one, be thankful. Secondly, if you are blessed enough that your child(ren) have a relationship with their father, celebrate. Celebrate if dad is there to provide love, support, finances, and a good example. Celebrate the man, not just the day.

It Takes a Village to Raise a Child…and to Keep It’s Mother Sane

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I received an unexpected text from the wife of a former coworker the other day. She gave birth to a baby girl a few weeks after I had my son. I never spoke directly with her while either of us were pregnant, nor did I authorize her husband to give her my phone number. But her text made me feel so good. She wanted to get together with the babies some time, to work out, go for a walk, go shopping, or just hang. My community of moms continues to grow and I never thought I’d even have one to begin with.

I thought my “village” would consist of mainly family, aunts, sisters, my mother and soon to be mother-in-law, etc. But I’m finding that I am so far from being alone in the newness of motherhood and it’s helping in more ways than one. I’m able to get out of the house and not be the only “baby mama” in the place. It’s giving me a chance to get moving, handle business, and really know that all of the things I’ve been feeling are normal, common, and okay to feel. 

I’m also able to help other new moms. Even though every pregnancy and parenting experience is different, it helps to discuss, exchange ideas and stories and suggestions. I can also get rid of all the stuff my son can’t use like bottles he doesn’t like and clothes he can’t fit. 

I said all that to say I’m excited to see my village grow. I appreciate all the love and support I get to give and receive. And another perk it brings for the future is that my son won’t have to party with all adults at his first birthday (I just hate that for kids).

Inspiration for Today: Words to Consider; Go against the Grain

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I Can Do It All, You Little Identity Thief

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My son is the youngest identity thief you’ll ever meet. But I’ve taken a stand and reclaimed my womanhood!

When my son was born life became all about him. I stopped working, stopped exercising, stopped caring about almost anything except him. Motherhood made me feel like I had arrived. But after about 2 months it consumed me. While I was grateful to be a mom, and felt like I had been given the highest honor, I also felt like everything that built up to motherhood had vanished. I was always with my son. Even when I was given a “break” I would still eventually end up changing a diaper, feeding, or putting my son to sleep. On top of that, I was in desperate need of some adult interaction and fun. The icing on the cake came one night I got a call about a consulting gig. The company asked for a proposal the next day. I was excited about the opportunity to make money again. But my fiancee was away at work and my son would not go to sleep. I began to feel like I would never be anything more than a mother. I wasn’t working, I don’t cook (my fiancee likes to cook and is good at it so don’t judge), I don’t go out, my life revolved around my son and there was no room for anything else.

I had had enough. The next morning I typed up that proposal and decided that I would make dinner. With my baby glued to me I made my way to the store, picked up what I needed, came home and began cooking. It took about 4-5 hours from start to finish (everything takes longer with a baby) but I did it and I felt accomplished. I shocked everyone but I needed that. I needed to know that I could still do more than watch a baby all day. I needed to know that I could take care of my family and be a business woman. I know and see women do it every day. I needed to know that I could do it too.

I enjoy being a mom. I just have to learn how to bring everything else into balance. I’ll get it one day soon. Being a mommy is just part of my womanhood.

State Farm TV Spot – Talking Mime – Funny Commercial

OMG! State Farm out does themselves every time. Check out this funny video!

Art mirrors Life

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“Dirty Laundry” by Kelly Rowland

Brand new single, “Dirty Laundry,” Kelly Rowland airs things out. The track, from her upcoming album Talk A Good Game, she addresses pain from her past, including a physically abusive boyfriend and a time when she and B weren’t so cool.

Inspiration for today

Inspiration for today

Happy Deltaversary to the 31DDDD! #Yearof4